“faux-lationships”
Have you ever been in a “faux-lationship”??? I certainly have in the past and am in one right now. It’s one that never gets too serious and one that never is defined by “the talk”. OR, if you DO have “the talk”, you don’t come up with a definite answer as to what the hell is going on.
This isn’t really a problem unless A. you are the type of person that just NEEDS to define everything for no reason other than you need order in your life, B. you want to move the relationship forward and make it real, or C. you are ready to end it and move on.
My “faux-lationship” came out of two people being totally wrong for each other on paper but really really getting along and liking each other. It’s been a year and a half. Ugh. Sometimes heart-breaking, sometimes the perfect situation, and sometimes just too damn confusing, a “faux-lationship” doesn’t exactly seem healthy. Which is why I’m thinking of turning it into just a friendly relationship. As much as I like the guy it’s not going anywhere and he was honest about it from Day 1, as was I.
So how do you end a “faux-lationship”???? That’s my question. My answer would be to be honest with the person and treat them with enough dignity to at least tell them why you want to end it so there is no further confusion. The only problem is that a faux-lationship is JUST SO EASY!! You don’t owe the person much, you can rationalize pretty much anything (ignoring their call - eh, they aren’t really my bf, calling them a few times in a row - eh, no big deal we are totally dating and comfortable!, and pretty much anything in between those two examples). Anyways, it’s time… advice???
xx
4 years ago • Notes